5 THINGS THAT MADE ME REALIZE HE'S "THE ONE"
Monday, November 03, 2014
A few days ago, my husband and I celebrated our second year wedding anniversary. It has been two wonderful years since our wedding day and I must say that my decision to marry Ronnie is one of the best things I've ever done in my entire lifetime. Those people who knew me personally might have found themselves surprised upon knowing about my wedding because my husband and I have only been a couple for less than two years before we decided to finally tie the knot.
I am not an expert when it comes to love and relationships but I knew in my heart, the moment Ronnie became my boyfriend, that he is the man I'm going to marry someday. If you have been following this blog, you would know that I prayed for "signs" in order for me to find Mr. Right. It may have took a decade before my prayers had been answered but it's fine. My husband was definitely worth the wait anyway!
I may have been blessed to identify Mr. Right with the help of divine intervention, but if in case I was not, I would still marry him because along our journey as boyfriend and girlfriend, I was able to take note of several characteristics that he possesses which made me realize, he's "the one.
5 THINGS THAT MADE ME REALIZE HE'S "THE ONE"
1. He makes me happy (and I want to make him happy too). I have had a few serious relationships before I finally met my husband, but he was the ONLY person who has made my life happier. I don't actually know how he does it, but he never fails to put a smile on my face every single day. Everything just feels right whenever I'm with him. It sounds cliche, I know. But it's true. It's hard to explain, you would just feel it in your heart that he's the one. Trust your instinct!
"Love is the condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own" - R. Heinlein
2. He is trustworthy. This is one of the most important things that I consider essential in order to have a successful relationship. Also, this is one trait that I love most about him. He never tell lies. He would always choose to tell me the truth even if he knew I would end up being disappointed. I'm sorry to say this (Bato bato sa langit, ang tamaan wag magalit), but there are just a lot of guys out there who are such professional liars. I cannot even imagine how they can pretend to appear innocent without their conscience bugging them. Rihanna's song is just perfect for this topic, and it goes something like this: "And the award for the best liar goes to you..." I may sound a little bitter and probably getting off the topic, but what I'm just trying to say is that an honest man is like a Goliath frog; not because he would turn into a prince once kissed by a real princess, but because he is considered an endangered species. So if you happen to have found one, never let him go!
"But better to get hurt by the truth than comforted with a lie." - Khaled Hosseini
3. He respects me. Is chivalry dead? I used to believe so. In a world where hook up is becoming more rampant, (what did ever happen to today's generation???) it's no longer surprising that it would really be a big challenge to find a REAL gentleman. Hear me, ladies. A gentleman does not only come in the form of a man opening the door for you or doing other similar gestures. A real gentleman is someone who would understand, respect, and uphold the values that you believe in. In addition, he is someone who would know your worth and treat you the way you deserve to be treated - with utmost respect. A man who knows how to respect a woman is a true gentleman. Again, they're considered endangered species. So if you happen to have found one, lucky you!
"Treat your girl like how you would want your dad to treat your mom, and how you would want your future son-in-law to treat your daughter." - Anonymous
4. He accepts me for who I am. I remember when we had our pre-cana seminar, the facilitator said that true love is a matter of acceptance. It is impossible for us to find a perfect person because there's no such thing. So find someone who can love you inspite and despite all your imperfections. Because if you are hoping that one day, love can change the other person for the better, chances are, they won't. Take it or leave it. It's as simple as that.
5. He is responsible. Any woman in her proper state of mind, who is looking forward to having a lifetime commitment with her partner, would always choose a man who is hardworking, with a decent job, of good character, and financially literate. As a woman, of course, I would want to marry a man who would be a responsible father and a good role model to our future children too. I know that most, if not all women, share the same feeling too. Unfortunately, these kind of men are hard to find and what you are most likely to encounter nowadays are the total opposite. No wonder an article was published saying that many single men in the Philippines are unappealing. So if in case you happen to find one, you're blessed!
"Do not marry a man unless you would be proud to have a son exactly like him." - Anonymous
20 comments
Happy 2nd wedding anniversary!
ReplyDeleteI agree with this ""Do not marry a man unless you would be proud to have a son exactly like him"
This is the reason why I waited for the right man, my husband is my first boyfriend because I told myself na magbf lang ako kung yun din gusto ko mapangasawa not for the sake na may lovelife lang.
I know that he is the one because other people confirmed it too. Family, friends and even not close people tell me that I'm so blessed or I'm so lucky kasi bihira daw ang lalaki na tulad ng asawa ko, Oh di ba, endangered species din. lol
Thank you, Michi! You are very blessed to have your first boyfriend as your husband. Ako din noon gusto ko yung idea of first and last, pero it didn't work. Blessing in disguise na rin na hindi nagwork dahil sobrang happy naman ako ngayon with hubby. We're both lucky and blessed to have our husbands! :)
DeleteHappy 2nd Wedding Anniversary! Stay in-love and sweet. ^_^
ReplyDeleteLike you, I'm so blessed to marry the right man for me. We've been in bf/gf relationship for the past 6 years and now happily married for 2 years with lovely 9-month old daughter.
Thank you, Rackell! Congratulations for marrying a good husband! My first relationship lasted also for more than 6 years but it didn't work well. Then my husband came and we got married. Now, we already have an 11 month old son. It is indeed true that life gets better when you're with the right person.
Deletehi. thanks for sharing your story. my confirmation of marrying my husband came with my father's words the first he met him. my father said, "when he asks you to marry him, say yes!"
ReplyDeleteHi Darlene! You are most welcome. In my case, it was the other way around. The moment my mother met my husband, she told me "maybe he's the man you're going to marry someday."
DeleteHappy Anniversary to you! I'm glad that most of the women I know found good men to marry. In my case, my most important criterion is that my man should love God, and my partner is that. I'm glad to have skipped over bad men nga eh. Many more years to you!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Marie! I'm glad to know also that there are still few good men out there. I'm also happy that you have found a God fearing husband. Just like what they say, put God in the center of your relationship for t is the key to having a happy marriage.
DeleteHappy anniversary! We are lucky to have great men as our husbands!
ReplyDeleteThank you Que! I agree! We are blessed to have good husbands! Cheers!
DeleteHappy anniversary! Like you, I prayed hard for God's guidance to lead me to "Mr. Right." And He did lead me to him. We're now married three years! :)
ReplyDeleteWow! Congratulations! God really answers prayers. All we just have to do is ask.. I remember my favorite bible verse: "ask and you shall receive, seek and you shall find."
DeleteHappy Anniversary! :) I really enjoyed reading your post. and I agree with you on this "Do not marry a man unless you would be proud to have a son exactly like him." - Anonymous
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary and glad that you have a Hubby that really cherishes you :)
ReplyDeleteThank you Dominique! I'm really blessed to have him in my life.
DeleteHappy anniversary! I am not much fan of delayed gratification, cause I got my Mr. Right after a mishap of my first relationship, but congratulations on finding your mr right anyways! Goodluck with life :D
ReplyDeleteThank you nicolepaler! I'm glad you've also found your Mr. Right!
DeleteHappy Anniversary! That is so sweet! Coming from MBC! Nice to meet you!
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary and I know that more years to come for the both of you.
ReplyDeleteHappy Anniversary. Stay in love and honest and put God in the center of your relationship. Thanks for sharing your list.
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