WHY STAY-AT-HOME?
Tuesday, August 26, 2014I have not been working for about a year and a half already. In all honesty, I miss having a job. Aside from the fact that you become preoccupied with things that needs to be done (so there's very little idle time to kill), having to take home a pay check gives you a little (or perhaps, a lot) sense of self worth. I stopped working. It was a personal choice. I decided not to have a career the moment I learned I was pregnant with Rafael. During those times it was easy to convince myself that I have made the right decision because I had a very sensitive pregnancy. I literally have to stop "working" on anything and I needed to stay in bed in order to keep the little one's heart beating. All those times of having to be stuck in bed at home paid off when our little healthy baby boy was born.
Fast forward nine months, I am still jobless but this time around, I already have a little kiddo that keeps me busy day and night. I am a stay-at-home mom. I love my new role. But sometimes there came an instance when people would frankly tell it to your face how "easy" your life is as if you're doing nothing. It is during these times that I would start to feel a little "insecure" for not being the income-generating person that they are.
A few weeks ago, I told Ronnie how sad I am for entertaining this feeling of "insecurity" and how I regret not having the career that I wish I had. I started to re-evaluate things and weigh my priorities. Then I realized, I am actually living the kind of life that I have always dreamed of ever since - to be a full time house wife.
I want Rafael to grow up as a fine gentleman who would remember me as his mom who was always there. From the moment he learns to take his first step or speak his first word, to that moment of having to bear the pain of a heart break or overcome a failure. I want to be the mom who he can always run to. I want to be that person who is always present to give him a hug of comfort or a cheer of a number one fan. I want to give him all the time that I have in this world (no one knows how long or short that is), hoping that would be enough to show him how much he is very much loved.
I'm choosing to be a stay-at-home mom because I believe, no amount of pay check can ever replace time.
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You're definitely right - no paycheck can ever replace time. I've been a SAHM for almost a year and a half now and I have no regrets. I am grateful for this opportunity to be a full time mom. Cheers to all mommies!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Petite Momma! We are really blessed to be a SAHM!
DeleteThe courage that you have to stay at home and be there for your child 24/7 is what our society needs--what your son needs. Your staying at home is raising him not with money but with wisdom and love :)
ReplyDeleteI love it when you said, "Staying at home is raising him not with money but with wisdom and love." I really wish I will be able to bring up a child who is responsible and loving.
DeleteI think you are on the right track. As a working Mom like Me, I always got envious to a full time mom like you. I should be the one taking care of my daughter, but I entrusted it to someone else. I just make bawi every week-ends. But I always dream of being a WAHM soon. I always include that in my prayer! God bless! ♥♥♥
ReplyDeleteThank you, mommy Lally! I also dream of being a WAHM too or perhaps having my own business so I could still be with my son 24/7 while earning. Let's hope and pray that God will grant our wishes.
DeleteTrue to that, muther! At dahil sa post mo na ito, I want to become super friends with you. :-)
ReplyDeleteHi there, the CEO. I would also love to be friends with you. Add me up on fb, g+, instagram, or twitter. Thanks for dropping by my blog!
DeleteHi, Mommy Rozelle! I have been a SAHM for 3 years and no regrets. It's true, no amount of paycheck can ever replace every moment you spend with your baby. It's not easy but God's grace is always sufficient. Thank you for sharing. :)
ReplyDeleteHi mommy Bliss! Indeed, God is really good for providing our needs and I am so thankful that we can afford for me to stay at home and be with our son.
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